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April 25 我又回来了！亲爱的朋友们，
或许你认为我无辜消失了很久，其实事实是我的近来状况，都略写在facebook account里。通常我是希望尽可能利用华文书写，这样有助于我在这种英语强势、华语不同用的语言环境练习华文
Dear friends,
recently I personally planned a tour trip for my parents to go to China, Guilin for guided tour holiday of 9 days. I feel very joyful and happy that I was able to do something like this for them as a daughter. Somehow, as years go by and as I mature as an adult, I realized that I want to do more things for my parents.
even when I was in my late teens as I was progressing to the next level of my life, young adulthood and now adulthood, I have noticed how my parents have changed in my eyes. when I was young, their hair are always black and they look alright. the image of them in their late 30s to 40s seem quite the same and that was the impression etched in my mind for a very long time, even until I was just entering university at the age of nineteen.
admitably , perhaps I was really one of the those early maturing people all the time. I start to see deeper into those hair that is turning whiter yearly, and begin to understand the struggle faced when we are younger with the finances. when I was teenage, I always cannot understand why my dad was so careful with money and why both my parents were always so quarrelsome over finance matters. (Thankfully, none of these quibbles erupted into any divorces, they still remained sweetly and lovingly married for 30+ years. ) Seeing the obvious aging of my parents, I always thought I want to do more for them.
therefore I become quite independent, though financially still not that independent yet. I try to settle many matters on my own and that wears me down. at the same time, i do duo-role play as daughter cum decision maker for certain matters of the family. i also hear offloading messages from my mum from time to time.
recently they quarrel quite a bit. my mum quietly tell me that maybe my dad was undergoing menopause (hers ended, she claimed) and thus was a little more temperamental. To be honest, as a daughter, my mum has realy a big issue with her temper. she sounded very unreasonable at times, which we all nicely feedback to her when she is in a good mood. she knows that she has a problem like this, and si trying to control and not behave like this most of the time. but of course, couples should avoid at all times to dig out historical files of misendeavours by each other, those are the triggers that can erupt into serious damages to relations.
as you have seen, it was quite a lofty baggage for me to multipl-role play as marriage counseller, problem solver, young parent , student
anyway I initiated a family tour to go to Guilin because I saw a promotion on ASA. initially I planned to sponsor them to go to malaysia, because it is cheaper but my parents felt that it was too dangerous to move on the steep slopes.
My dad was very excited about the trip! he havent gone for a trip for 10 years.! I cannot join them coz i will be stucked in singapore for training and work matters in school. hence they are flying together from 16 june-24june (9 day trip). my dad took a 12 day holiday....
yoowoo!! he is still so excited until now.....
I am really thankful that I went for the romance and relationship conference and the service sessions Pastor Kong prepared for us as CHC members at Expo. I gained a lot of insight into how relationship works and actually able to do my part as a daughter to bring back some sparks into my parents' relationship! as mentioned to my cg members, it was a second honeymoon for them!! (in fact I was more excited over this than them!)
i have told them how thankful I was that they are around and healthy (when they are watching TV). Dun know how much went into their ears. when I was sick, yesterday I realy appreciated that my mum accompanied me to the polyclinic for 3 times. I fell sick quite frequently in the last 3 months. its very nice to have homecooked food on the table and mummy's reminders to take medicine and have dinner.
In my heart, I just thought: I am really glad that they are alive and healthy. I want to bless them more in the years to come, so I hope they will live a long life, be happily married and be merry.
my cGl's dad, died for quite some years already, she does not even have the opportunity to have dinner or spend time with her decreased dad. another coousin of mine, her mother died of cancer 5years ago and another cousin too, mum died of cousin 10years ago, dun have the chance to fellowship or spend time with their parents anymore.
I am really really thankful for the fact that my parents are still around. I may be very busy, but I can still see them everyday, healthy and contented with life. My prayer at the end of the day is for them to know God and to be blessed in old age. God have placed good parents in my life to groom me, raise me so that I am moulded to be the person I am today. Let the labourers have their share of the earnings they are due for, my parents have sacrifaced a lot to raise me and my siblings up.
Friends, hope that this part of my sharing touches a part of your heart. May we all remember the kindness and love showered on us by our parents, and remain thankful to them always!
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